The Letter “A” and the Principles of Acceptance, Part 2

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If you’re starting with this article, you may wish to read Part I to understand the context. In my last post, I identified the feelings of “yuck” we may feel when people ignore, mock or reject us. This may be based on personal features, traits, or preferences we have. That “yuck” feeling can be very hurtful.  This I compared to the “yuck” I felt towards asparagus when growing up.

In contrast to rejection, when we accept asparagus and are accept ...

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Practical Life Principles from A to Z

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Over the years, I have embraced many practical ideas. These have been often shared in office, classroom, and seminar settings over the years. I thought I’d share them with you, and I hope you find them useful.

Part I: The Letter A and the Principle of Acceptance

“Yuck to asparagus”

Let me begin with the lowly and lonely vegetable called asparagus.  This misunderstood vegetable has been the object of rejection and bad jokes for years. The word “YUCK” has been used countless times ...

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Part 2: Why Confession Is Good for Your Soul

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In my last blog post in this series, I made specific reference to the importance of disclosing to your spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend things that may impact your relationship. This included things they may know, things they know nothing about, or things that they only know a portion about. In almost all situations, I put forward the idea that they need to know the more about what you’ve been hiding. It’s usually good for your relationships.

Examples of Personal Secrets

Before speaking ...

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Anger Part 1: What Part Does Anger Play in Your Life?

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While anger is a familiar and universal experience, how it is accepted and expressed can create confusion, fear, and even regret. There are also positive ways to express and manage anger.

In this two-part series, I will begin with a focus on personal anger – yours and mine – and how we can manage this strong emotion in our lives.

How Well Do You Manager Anger? A Quiz

The following is a brief inventory on your view and use of anger:

  • Do you recognize ...
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Embracing Differences in a Christian Marriage

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Let me begin this writing with the title from the 1987 movie “classic,” Planes, Trains, and Automobiles. It was and is a favorite of mine, and starred Steve Martin and the late John Candy. Without going into a movie critique, let me simply borrow two modes of transportation and portray a silly conversation.

Imagine the plane saying this to the train:

“You’re so slow, cautious and rigid! All you can do is conform and stay on one course (the tracks). ...

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The Importance of Prayer to Couples

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On April 22, 2015, my father-in-law, Don, died just a month shy of his 90th birthday. On the day of his funeral, it was estimated that almost 450 people attended his memorial service. If one counted the many others who attended his wake the night before, sent cards or left phone messages the night before but could not attend, then one can only imagine the actual turnout. What a testimony to those who knew Don and were touched in many ...

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Words Matter, Part I

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Words matter in more ways than you can imagine. Have you ever heard these words?

These are the words, not of a delusional man or woman, but of a hurting, confused and discouraged person. Sadly these are the words I hear every day in my office from people. And, honestly, these same words have at times shouted in my soul and mind too.

The Origin and Impact of Negative Words

These demeaning and discouraging words can come ...

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Christian Counseling and Parenting: Training a Child to Be Kind to Others – Part 4

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We come now to the fourth area of parenting focused on by Mary and Joseph. In Luke 2: 52. Find that, “Jesus grew… in favor with man.” I understand this phrase to mean that parents are to help a child to learn good social skills now and for their future as adults. This means learning how to be kind to others.

Areas to “Grow in Favor with Others”

A child needs direction and encouragement on how to view and interact with siblings, ...

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Christian Parenting Skills: Helping Your Child Grow in Wisdom – Part 3

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I hope that you are enjoying this series on Christian parenting skills. Parenting is one of the toughest jobs in the world, but fortunately God gives us the grace to see it through and to help our children grow in love and wisdom. But what does it mean to encourage wisdom?

Encouraging and “Reinforcing” Wisdom

Questions often arise around how can parents facilitate a child’s involvement activities that facilitate growth.

First, as parents you have the ability to design the requirements and structure ...

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Christian Counseling and Parenting

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This verse regarding Christian counseling and parenting may sound familiar to you. Solomon wrote a Biblical principle that many parents may find strangely familiar. He said in Proverbs 22:6: “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.”

Insights from a Christian Counselor

I’ll never forget when Pastor Charles Swindoll explains this verse to our congregation at the First Evangelical Free Church in Fullerton, California. He made many memorable points that day, ...

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