The Letter “A” and the Principles of Acceptance, Part 2

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If you’re starting with this article, you may wish to read Part I to understand the context. In my last post, I identified the feelings of “yuck” we may feel when people ignore, mock or reject us. This may be based on personal features, traits, or preferences we have. That “yuck” feeling can be very hurtful.  This I compared to the “yuck” I felt towards asparagus when growing up.

In contrast to rejection, when we accept asparagus and are accept ...

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Practical Life Principles from A to Z

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Over the years, I have embraced many practical ideas. These have been often shared in office, classroom, and seminar settings over the years. I thought I’d share them with you, and I hope you find them useful.

Part I: The Letter A and the Principle of Acceptance

“Yuck to asparagus”

Let me begin with the lowly and lonely vegetable called asparagus.  This misunderstood vegetable has been the object of rejection and bad jokes for years. The word “YUCK” has been used countless times ...

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Part 2: Why Confession Is Good for Your Soul

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In my last blog post in this series, I made specific reference to the importance of disclosing to your spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend things that may impact your relationship. This included things they may know, things they know nothing about, or things that they only know a portion about. In almost all situations, I put forward the idea that they need to know the more about what you’ve been hiding. It’s usually good for your relationships.

Examples of Personal Secrets

Before speaking ...

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Anger, Part 2: How Other People’s Anger Affects You

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Previously we talked how you accept and express anger in constructive or destructive ways.  In Part 2, I would like to again give you some reflection questions and offer ways to handle now the anger of others in constructive ways.

Here are several reflection questions. Check off each one that you think applies to you.

How would you answer the following?

 Do you recognize when others seem angry or express anger?

 Do you feel surprised, uncomfortable or ...

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Characteristics of Loving Homes: Part 1

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In over 30 years serving homes as a Christian counselor, I have noticed some qualities that are found in loving and “successful” homes. Here is Part 1 of an ongoing series on the characteristics of these marriages.

The Characteristics Found in Loving Homes

Several characteristics are shared among the loving and successful homes that I’ve observed through my career as a Christian counselor. These include:

Respect – Partners value the other and express dignity towards each other.

Appreciation – Thankfulness is presented in words, ...

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Christian Addiction Counseling Breaks the Hold of Substances Keeping Us from Life

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Christian addiction counseling can break the bonds that hold us back and keep us from the abundant life that God promises us. Addiction is a sign of turning to people, situations and things for comfort, security and happiness, rather than turning to the Father for help.

Addictions keep us from the life of abundance and grace that God wants us to have. Addictions hurt individuals, families and communities. Christian counseling can heal those broken ...

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