The Letter “A” and the Principles of Acceptance, Part 2

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If you’re starting with this article, you may wish to read Part I to understand the context. In my last post, I identified the feelings of “yuck” we may feel when people ignore, mock or reject us. This may be based on personal features, traits, or preferences we have. That “yuck” feeling can be very hurtful.  This I compared to the “yuck” I felt towards asparagus when growing up.

In contrast to rejection, when we accept asparagus and are accept ...

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Practical Life Principles from A to Z

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Over the years, I have embraced many practical ideas. These have been often shared in office, classroom, and seminar settings over the years. I thought I’d share them with you, and I hope you find them useful.

Part I: The Letter A and the Principle of Acceptance

“Yuck to asparagus”

Let me begin with the lowly and lonely vegetable called asparagus.  This misunderstood vegetable has been the object of rejection and bad jokes for years. The word “YUCK” has been used countless times ...

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Why Confession Is Good for the Soul

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Our blog title today shares an old saying, “Confession is good for the soul.”

In this brief series, let me share about three areas of confession and why “Confession is good for the soul.”  Part 1 will about confessions to the people closest to us: our spouse, fiancé, or a serious boyfriend or girlfriend.

Examples of Secrets

We usually confess our deepest and darkest secrets. But what are secrets? A secret may be an activity, habit or addiction around alcohol or drugs, a ...

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Anger, Part 2: How Other People’s Anger Affects You

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Previously we talked how you accept and express anger in constructive or destructive ways.  In Part 2, I would like to again give you some reflection questions and offer ways to handle now the anger of others in constructive ways.

Here are several reflection questions. Check off each one that you think applies to you.

How would you answer the following?

 Do you recognize when others seem angry or express anger?

 Do you feel surprised, uncomfortable or ...

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I’ve Been Called Dr. Shrink

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I’ve been called many things over the years, both personally and professionally. While some of these terms cannot be repeated here, here are a few I can share.

I’ve been called some of these names:

  • Doctor Shrink
  • A doctor to the crazies
  • A mentalist
  • A head examiner
  • Doctor Freud
  • Doctor Phil
  • A Doctor Phil want-a-be
  • A prober of the soul
  • A reprogramer
  • A waste of time
  • A blessing

Some are flattering, some are not. Others terms can seem somewhat confusing, some mysterious, and a few outright insulting.

Depending on one’s perspective, experience, and understanding ...

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Embracing Differences in a Christian Marriage

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Let me begin this writing with the title from the 1987 movie “classic,” Planes, Trains, and Automobiles. It was and is a favorite of mine, and starred Steve Martin and the late John Candy. Without going into a movie critique, let me simply borrow two modes of transportation and portray a silly conversation.

Imagine the plane saying this to the train:

“You’re so slow, cautious and rigid! All you can do is conform and stay on one course (the tracks). ...

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The Characteristics of Loving Homes: Part 2

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In my last article, I cited seven characteristics of successful and happy marriages. In this writing I would like to continue with TWO more observations. I have found that how a couple allows each other “Voice” and “Vote” matters.

What Is Voice?

One of the hallmarks found in a marriage and outside of the home is the freedom to share one’s point-of –view with each other. I call this having a voice.

Sharing one’s voice includes the following:

  • Communicating personal thoughts, feelings, mood, and ...
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The Importance of Prayer to Couples

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On April 22, 2015, my father-in-law, Don, died just a month shy of his 90th birthday. On the day of his funeral, it was estimated that almost 450 people attended his memorial service. If one counted the many others who attended his wake the night before, sent cards or left phone messages the night before but could not attend, then one can only imagine the actual turnout. What a testimony to those who knew Don and were touched in many ...

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Words Matter, Part I

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Words matter in more ways than you can imagine. Have you ever heard these words?

These are the words, not of a delusional man or woman, but of a hurting, confused and discouraged person. Sadly these are the words I hear every day in my office from people. And, honestly, these same words have at times shouted in my soul and mind too.

The Origin and Impact of Negative Words

These demeaning and discouraging words can come ...

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Christian Counseling and Parenting: Training a Child to Be Kind to Others – Part 4

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We come now to the fourth area of parenting focused on by Mary and Joseph. In Luke 2: 52. Find that, “Jesus grew… in favor with man.” I understand this phrase to mean that parents are to help a child to learn good social skills now and for their future as adults. This means learning how to be kind to others.

Areas to “Grow in Favor with Others”

A child needs direction and encouragement on how to view and interact with siblings, ...

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